Hey there folks--when last we met I was tottering on the cusp of mental breakdown after spending seventy-four days in Abu Dhabi trying to understand what was wrong with my penis. Pretty much.
It's been seventy-four days since then, and I've learned something. There's the word androgyne, which is related to the word androgynous, which I used to think was the same as hydrogenous, but which actually is just a combination of Greek roots for male and female (Andro=man, e.g. android, Gyne=woman, e.g. gynecologist). And I hate to give myself such a label, because really there's nothing ultimately worse for queer equality than to keep adding letters to the old LGBT(+T+Q+Q+I+A+A+P), no matter how damn precise you try to get it. I don't want to be in my own little compartment, and I don't want to have to give away a whole new compartment every time someone else discovers that they're different. I identify as queer, yes, and I suppose if pressed I could tell you my species is androgyne, maybe, but even that I'm not sure about, especially after the roller coaster of the past 148+ days; how the hell should I know?
So I just want you to know that our genders are not so different between us all. You might say that everyone is born with one, and its God and its nature, and however you slice it they're diametric and it's somehow dialectic, but I just want you to know that I disagree, and to believe otherwise I wouldn't be betraying anyone but myself. I don't know what's going on in your mind and your genitals, but I listen to what's going on in mine. Nature doesn't believe in straight lines, humans do. If you really love someone, and they love you, go for it. What could matter more than that?
It's been seventy-four days since then, and I've learned something. There's the word androgyne, which is related to the word androgynous, which I used to think was the same as hydrogenous, but which actually is just a combination of Greek roots for male and female (Andro=man, e.g. android, Gyne=woman, e.g. gynecologist). And I hate to give myself such a label, because really there's nothing ultimately worse for queer equality than to keep adding letters to the old LGBT(+T+Q+Q+I+A+A+P), no matter how damn precise you try to get it. I don't want to be in my own little compartment, and I don't want to have to give away a whole new compartment every time someone else discovers that they're different. I identify as queer, yes, and I suppose if pressed I could tell you my species is androgyne, maybe, but even that I'm not sure about, especially after the roller coaster of the past 148+ days; how the hell should I know?
So I just want you to know that our genders are not so different between us all. You might say that everyone is born with one, and its God and its nature, and however you slice it they're diametric and it's somehow dialectic, but I just want you to know that I disagree, and to believe otherwise I wouldn't be betraying anyone but myself. I don't know what's going on in your mind and your genitals, but I listen to what's going on in mine. Nature doesn't believe in straight lines, humans do. If you really love someone, and they love you, go for it. What could matter more than that?
